Question by Chely: Attention All single “Moms” How do you relieve stress due to handling everything yourself???
You ladies are great- have one child starting Kindergarten and so far it’s already been a headache- she can only ride a bus with high school kids!!! I am making other arrangements I really cannot afford. I pray it works out.
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Answer by Jenn
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I was a single mom for 2 years. It’s hard I do agree to that. But I had a good support team. Friend and family. I do enjoy time to myself and good thing to do is find a sitter if possible and go out and do something that you can afford and still enjoy. Even if it’s for an hour or so. I know it’s hard and not fun.
Have mommy time. Find ways to streamline getting things done sooner. Depending on the age of the kids, help them to learn to do their own laundry, or at least put it away. It may not be put away the way you want it, but at least it is in the dresser.
Find something that you enjoy at home…. Sewing, reading, knitting, puzzles.
Take one night a month and go do something fun. We used to have a group of 5 of us that we switched off babysitting. Once a month 4 would go out, and one would stay with the kids. Since we had a lot of outings together, the kids knew each other. They loved the chance for a sleep over, and we loved the chance to get out.
i make sure my babys in bed by 7:30 every night so i have that time to myself when my babys napping i make sure i get all my stuff done so at night its all me time i relax read a book watch tv take a long bubble bath call family and friends i haven’t talked to in a while or invite a friend over for a few drinks and on rare occassions i find a babysitter and go out
Take time out for yourself.Pamper yourself- go get a massage or go to the spa or simply put some time aside every day for the gym.
I always find if I have a little quiet time to myself then I cope better, even 15 minutes just to breath. I find also planning ahead helps alot, if there is a plan in place then I’m not running around doing things last minute, or always being late for things. Maybe if you have older children they can help out with the little ones, or even help you sometimes. Family and friends are great also, I don’t like asking for help but sometimes you just need too, and they are always more than willing to help
I work out. It releases all those great endorphines, and keeps me calm and mellow.
I think “Jenn At Work” gave the best answer. What works for me is having a routine. I make sure my 3 y.o. is in bed by 8pm every nite so that I can have time to myself. I usually read, surf the net, or watch tv. Also, try to be prepared… Like using a crock pot to prepare meals, cooking and freezing meals ahead of time. I just try not to wait till the last minute to do stuff and try to be organized. I watch for clues and signs from my little one when she’s tired or fussy and try to head it off at the pass. My daughter is very talkative, strong willed and feisty. It takes a lot of patience. So I try to keep her busy by letting her “help” me with the chores. She knows where all the silverware goes, she helps put the laundry in the dryer, she has her own broom and calls herself helping me sweep, she can match socks, she can stir ingredients in a bowl while I’m cooking. When we go grocery shopping I bring a toy, juice and graham crackers. Then as I put stuff in the cart, I tell her what it is (if she asks) and we talk about it.
I think parents get most frustrated when they try to get the kids outta the way instead of getting them involved in day-to-day activities. Now, I’m not perfect ’cause I do get aggravated and I’ve been known to yell. But if I’m doing it, I take a deep breath and step away from her. I make sure she’s in her crib or engaged in an activity and go to the next room.
I don’t have any friends or family that can help me but maybe you could try making friends with some parents at your child’s preschool. You could have playdates and that helps a lot too.
Just remember, you can only be a good mom if you are good to yourself. Children don’t do what we say but what we do. If you value yourself, child will value his/herself too.
once in a blue moon I go out whilstt my toddler is with her grand mother for the night…
and the rest of the time I have the night for my self whils she is sleeping but of course if I don’t sleep much I am exhausted the next day…..
I try to live day by day and forget about yesterday as to anil the stress of the past and starts afresh….
I have a bubbly bath with a glass of sparkling wine once in a while…
and so much more things to do with her (kid) cause when she is happy I am happy so less stress….
have a great day….
Funny that you should put the word mom in quotes.
Why not step up and be a “mom” by making sure your child is well taken care of. Being a child of a single mother puts your child at a sever disadvantage in life. http://www.photius.com/feminocracy/facts_on_fatherless_kids.html
You don’t have the time to worry about how you can relax.